Polar Opposites Uncover
By Shannon Parish
If perfect people existed, we
wouldn't need one another and we certainly wouldn't need
a Father in Heaven. But all too painfully, it is
quite clear that there is no such thing as a perfect
human being. Try as we might, we are forever falling
Tempers flair and hearts despair.
Emotions ride up and down as a proverbial roller coaster
was in a state of perpetual motion. Bills pile up,
decisions need to be made, bad news arrives in the mail,
on the phone or constantly through the T.V. amplifying
daily struggles into fits of frustration and panic.
Arguments between spouses, parents and children signal a
higher level of stress than the day before, which in
itself leads to frustration because problems are not
When our world becomes too
suffocating and our prayers not quite enough, where do
we seek relief? Not temporary relief, but the kind of
relief that comes from finding solid and true solutions
to complex problems. The temptation is to push the
emotions down until a 'more opportune time' of
expression - which is simply another way of describing
What is it in us that makes us
think that our Heavenly Father is not aware of our
thoughts and feelings? When we go to Him in prayer, are
we ingrained with religiosity that demands perfection -
even in our prayers? Wouldn't that too be a type
of denial? We pray, "Our Father, who art in Heaven
... Wouldst Thou grant to me, Thy lowly servant, a
moment of Thy grace?" (Okay, so I'm exaggerating
here - people don't REALLY pray like that anymore - do
Who are we fooling when we pray
'perfect' prayers? Take a look at this:
1 Cor 3:18-21
Let no one deceive himself. If anyone among you seems
to be wise in this age, let him become a fool that he
may become wise. 19 For the wisdom of this world is
foolishness with God. For it is written, "He catches the
wise in their own craftiness"; 20 and again, "The LORD
knows the thoughts of the wise, that they are futile."
So, if God already knows my
thoughts, who am I kidding when I leave out important
conversations with Him? If He knows how angry I am with
my spouse, or my boss, or Him for that matter, who does
it benefit to leave these thoughts unsaid?
What an enormous relief to just be
honest with Him and admit my horrid thoughts and
feelings! To be authentically who I am in all honesty,
to the One who already knows who I am, is so much more
productive than trying to impress Him with my own human
wisdom and so called humility.
So - now I've confessed honesty my
inner most thoughts and feelings. I've vented,
cried, pleaded, admitted, talked and sang. Whew!
Relief. Is the problem solved? Not necessarily.
My job now is to review the
journey that brought me to my knees. After more
conversations than I can count, I've come to believe
that most of our frustrations and anger in life have to
do with certain needs not being met. Real or
imagined needs leave huge holes that left unidentified
can create constant grief and irritation in our lives.
It would then be obvious that any
emotional outbursts are red flags that signal something
that needs to be worked on. Recent or in the past
- the Lord knows and is waiting to walk through the
triggering event with you. Ask yourself this
question, "Where else in your life have you reacted or
felt this way?" As the memories come to mind, ask
God to reveal truth from assumption.
If you cannot put your finger on
an event from the past that has triggered a common
emotional reaction, the perhaps there is something
lacking in your life that is necessary for your own
soul's growth. For instance, if you are an ordered
person who loves meeting goals and examining details and
you are surrounded with people who are only interested
in fun and breaking rules, you may have to set certain
boundaries to ensure that you are able to function
within your needed guidelines. The opposite is
true if you are a fun loving person and the people
around you are problem solvers and detail minded.
If you are waiting for them to have fun, produce fun or
encourage fun - don't hold your breath. Putting
'fun' into your life is your thing - their thing is
Naturally, opposites attract.
Naturally, needs will go un met. Praying out
frustrations and being honest in prayer is bringing
emotional junk to the surface of your heart so that it
can be dealt with in the Holy of Holies. Holy scum
if you will. The funny hums come when you find yourself
humming softly rather than raging in anger because you
have not only dealt with your destructive emotions, but
have also identified areas that are lacking in your life
that are necessary for your personal growth - and have
made room and choices that have now allowed them to
enter your life.
Becoming authentic you allows you
to praise and worship authentically. It takes the
work out of trying to 'muster up the praise' because
games are no longer on the agenda. Developing your
relationship with God on an authentic basis also helps
you to tap into authentic and supernatural grace,
patience and unconditional love. Something you
desperately need when dealing with those opposite
Give yourself permission to be who
God created you to be. Take volatile emotions as a
bright red flag of opportunity to grow and rid yourself
of destructive patterns and unforgiving thoughts.
Purpose to make room in your life the things you need to
maintain your emotional health. If you need fun -
then do something that is fun and makes you laugh! If
you need peace and quiet to recharge your batteries -
then find a place and time where you can listen to soft
music or read a book without interruption.
Above all, tell God the truth of
the matters in your heart. He already knows
any way. And who knows? Maybe you too will find
yourself humming funny.
A Cartoonist, Graphic Facilitator and Creative Life
Coach, Shannon Parish devotes her life
to encouraging those who are fed up with the 'status-quo' and are determined
and pursue their purpose and destiny in life through one-on-one mentoring,
facilitated workshops and retreats.
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