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There's JOY in the Kitchen ~
~When we realize that ~
You must have long-range goals to keep you from
being frustrated by short- range failures. * *
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OUR GREATEST FRUSTRATIONS
What fun it has been to read the answers to
the "Update" that was sent out, as you
all send it back to me. As I gather the
information, I am logging the names under various
categories. . . making 28 separate Buddy Lists!
Once I have gathered the information from
everybody, I will be sending out the Master List,
and you can ask for which lists you desire from
that one. If you haven't answered the
questionnaire, please take a few moments to fill
it in, and send it back - it will help us to
better serve you and meet your needs and those of
your family. Be sure to include your husbands
first name and screen name if he is interested in
corresponding with other pastors. That goes for
the kids too.
In the mean time, here are some frustrations
that some of us are struggling with. You may
relate to some or many of them, or you may have
gained victory in one of these areas. If you have
found an answer or solution, please don't be
bashful, someone else would like to hear how you
worked it out - drop us a line and we will
include it in one of our future issues.
"What is one of your greatest
frustrations. . . ?"
1. "One of my biggest needs is to be able
to vent frustrations when they arise and the
thing that is on my heart is a desire to see
Christians discipled."
2. "How to balance the leadership
abilities God has given me in a church that does
not take well to women leaders."
3. "Many different things. . .it's not
always the same . . . you conquer one thing and
another comes at you. My heart just wants to do
what the Lord wants. I love knowing that He is in
my heart. It makes me feel safe when everything
is falling apart around me."
4. "I have a lot of "problems"
with the Higher ups in the conference . . . not
problems, but displeasure and some resentment. I
am working through that, but it is a difficult
road. I also wish I knew if I was doing what I am
"supposed" to do by God. I am a stay at
home mom and it is a tough thing to do. . . $$$$
wise. We struggle all the time. So, I guess
finances are ALWAYS heavy on my heart"
5. "My greatest frustration is trying to
make sure I am doing the Lord's bidding and not
my own will. I feel that I need a closer walk
with the Master. . . this group of PW's has
helped me to see that I am not alone in some of
the situations I face daily. I want to be a
strength and help to those around me and the
precious friends I deal with in the Group!"
6. "My greatest frustration is that I
think there are people in the church who are
competing for our leadership. They don't like to
submit, this also carries over into their jobs.
When they want to do something they don't take
others into account."
7. "My current frustration is that my
husband is experiencing a renewed intimacy with
the Lord and I feel stagnant in my spiritual
relationship due to my busy-ness, laziness and
selfishness. I feel kind of left behind. I know
that our marriage was not a mistake, I know that
my husband's calling is real but wonder what God
has for ME."
8. "I think my greatest need is for
encouragement and fellowship; not only my needs ,
but to help meet the needs of others in
friendship. My greatest frustration is my own
idea of what a pastor's wife should be versus who
I am; I am learning to accept myself as I am,
faults and all, and realizing that God can use
who I am."
9. "That the church is only interested in
reaching higher class people."
10. "I have to learn not to demand too
much from my husband."
11. "I want to do so much to reach
people. Sometimes that means I get frustrated
trying to juggle my schedule, or find enough
energy to do a lot. I do not want to wind up
ignoring my husband either, and am still learning
how to make time for us to have fun as well and
get our work done." " I also want to
reach the women, to teach them to be good wives.
. . I also have a burden for abused women. . . .
Another burden is for the lost cultist. . .
especially the ones who come to my door."
12. "My greatest frustration is seeing
people that can be helped through Jesus Christ
and His delivering power, but they want to go the
way of the world. (amen sister) My greatest joy
is seeing the salvation of a lost soul, seeing
darkness turned into light!!!!!!"
13. "Balancing expectations against
reality, friendships in and outside the church,
time for family, discerning God's will."
14. "People in the church hurting us -
trying to flatter and buy our ministry in this
way - the isolation of being a pastors wife as
well as fielding the jealousy that comes with
being in a highly visible ministry (pastors wife,
etc.) - Have just come out of a . . . period of
intense trials - but God has worked it all out
completely and vindicated us as I asked Him to
do. I am still wounded and grieving over it
though - that the devil has used the church
(especially other associate ministers) as a
vehicle of his wrath and divisiveness more than
the world. This is difficult for me."
15. My greatest need is fellowship with people
on my level and people like me. Church planting
is a great mission, reaching people of spiritual
and emotional immaturity! Sometimes I feel very
alone!"
16. "My greatest area of frustration and
need as a pastor's wife now is the fact that I
want to be a stay - at - home mom, and wife. I
feel I could be used more by the Lord in reaching
the ladies in our community if I could be home. I
also would be more patient with my own children
and their needs if I could not be so stressed by
the amount of time I spend working. However, we
can not live (very easily) on my husband's
salary. We depend on both our wages to keep this
family afloat. I know that when the Lord is ready
for me to be home full time He will provide the
means to do so. Patience! Patience!"
17. "Because our church is small, they
cannot support us full-time, therefore my husband
is working a secular job, as well as pastoring.
This puts a lot of pressure on our family time.
Anyone else in the same boat?"
18. "My biggest frustration is not very
original - people's expectations, my
expectations. Sometimes it feels like there is a
manual out there (not the Bible LOL) that
EVERYONE ELSE SEEMS TO HAVE READ about how to run
MY life - misunderstanding the call on time and
resources."
19. "My greatest frustration is knowing
how unconcerned saints can be towards lost souls
and winning them for the Kingdom of God.
Witnessing to them, being a Godly example - and
doing whatever is necessary even if it calls for
putting yourself second."
20. "My frustration? We are in a new area
which I am not crazy about. We used to live in
the gorgeous mountains. I need to learn to be
content & wait on God. Our church is small,
and as we are home schooling, the kids haven't
met that many other kids. I feel. . . .sort of
isolated , although our church people have been
very loving."
21. "My greatest frustration I guess
would be that I don't seem to have as much time
as I really need to study and devote to things of
the Lord as I would like. (I work a full time
job) I always feel rushed and I feel like I am
not prepared as I should be. I feel like I'm not
giving it all I need to. Maybe sometime in the
future I can stay home, but right now it's not
possible. "
22. "The biggest struggle I have right
now is balancing who I am at work with a church,
and being myself in all situations. It is hard to
deal with the expectations which I feel are
placed on me."
24. "The greatest frustration I have is
that our marital identity is only in the church
and the "job" we do. . . . . not in
each other as man and wife, lovers and friends
with each other. What happened to romance and
enjoying each other? I think this opens us up to
too many temptations that are taking down too
many of God's Shepherds and leaving their wives
exposed."
Well Ladies, there you have it. . . remember
some of these topics the next time you are in a
chat - and let's talk about it! - Love, Shannon
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For the vision is yet for an appointed
time. . . Though it tarries, wait for it; because
it will surely come. . . Habakkuk 2:3 (NKJV)
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We're Going Public (Sorta)
Christianity Online has asked us to go public
with a chat for Pastor's Wives beginning sometime
in July. This chat will take the time slot of the
Tuesday morning chat. The purpose of this is to
help expose other pastor's wives to one another
and this ministry, as well as just plain ole'
meeting a need. The flavor will be a little
different since it is in the public eye - more
structured and "G" rated. . . LOL (If
you know what I mean)
Continue to pray as this ministry continues to
grow, for wisdom, integrity, and administration,
as well as the right people to come along side as
a team.
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We're Looking For A Name!
We need a name for this ministry! Put your
thinking caps on. . . . . . . . . God has birthed
a baby here and it needs a name! A name that was
suggested in a chat was "Sarah's Tent"
with Isaiah 54:2-3 as a reference verse. How
about it family?
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Refresh your spirit
Take time out of your busy day
To find a quiet place -
Slip away, renew your spirit,
And seek His Holy Face.
Humble your spirit, wait to hear
The whisp'rings of His Heart-
Send up praises and soon you'll find
The joy He will impart.
Then go back to work refreshed,
The day will seem brand new -
For the love you give your Savior
He will give back to you!
by Denise A DeWald
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Psalm139:6 Such knowledge is too
wonderful for me; it is high.......
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New Members This Week!
Meeting New Friends Online Is Like Christmas -
each one is a special gift just waiting to be
opened! Please consider sending a brief
"Hello" to our new friends! Feel free
to IM a new Buddy and say Hi! You never know if
THIS friend will be your best. . . . . or THIS
friend just might have the answer to that nagging
problem you've been sweating over. . .
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POT LUCK!!!
This is the best dressing you've ever
had.......
Trust me....Carol (Justaservn)
This was my mom's recipe....
Esther's Hen ( or Turkey) Dressing
1 small to medium hen, ( or two turkey wings)
1 medium to large onion
2 or 3 stalks of celery
5 to 6 boiled eggs
cake of cornbread (made from recipe on back of
White Lily Buttermilk cornmeal mix)
2 chicken bouillon cubes
half stick margarine, melted
salt and pepper, to taste
Boil hen or turkey wings on med-high...for as
long as you can.....with salt and pepper..about 6
hrs...slow boil longer if you are doing good on
time...This is the secret...your broth will be
richer, the longer you boil it...add more water
if necessary....Use a large pot, and fill it with
water till it barely covers the top of the hen (
or turkey). *Note: You can use a whole turkey if
small enough...either way...boil a LONG
time....till the meat falls off the bone. While
it is boiling, chop up onion and celery, and
store in refrigerator, and make your cornbread.
(If for large family, you may want to go 1 1/2
times on the cornbread recipe) Remove meat from
broth, and debone. Then, put meat back in with
celery, onion, and bouillon cubes. Boil till
celery and onion are tender. Then, in a large
baking dish, crumble up cornbread, and chop eggs.
Then add soup. Now, here is the next secret. If
you don't want it to be dry, fill the broth
capacity till it looks "soupy." Mix
together real well. Then pour melted butter on
top, and if you like it salty, pour some salt and
pepper on top. If you find that you have more
soup than bread....you have two choices. You can
use the remaining broth and make dumplings.....or
you can make a few slices of toast, to compensate
for lack of bread. Ok...now, two more choices,
you can bake at 350 degrees in middle of oven, on
lower rack.......or, you can tightly wrap foil on
it, put it in the fridge, and do that tomorrow.
Either way you win.
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If the roots are deep and strong the tree
needn't worry about the wind.
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CHECK THESE OUT!
JBU Just Between Us
(A newsletter just for Pastor's Wives by Jill
Brescoe)
777 South Barker Rd.
Brookfield, WI 53045-9975
1-800-260-3342
Pastor's Family
(A Focus On The Family Magazine just for pastors)
8605 Explorer Dr.
Colorado Springs, CO 80920
719-531-5181
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". . .Blessed is the man who trusts
in the Lord. . . He will be like a tree planted
by the water that sends out its roots by the
stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its
leaves are always green. It has no worries in a
year of drought and never fails to bear
fruit." Jeremiah 17:7,8 NIV
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For your Exploring Pleasure,
click on these hyper links and find
something new to investigate!
NEW! Land
O' Links A MUST! This is a wondrous web site
which will launch to some amazing places!
Welcome
to YouthPastor.com Christianity listed this
in their newsletter as one of the best Youth
Pastor sites online - everything you can imagine
is here - Last Weeks Sites
(If you have discovered a web site that you
think others would be interested in, please let
me know, and I will put it in our newsletter.
Just click & drag the sight from your
Favorite Places and drop it into your letter.)
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YOUR TAX DEDUCTIBLE GIFT to
Sarah's Tent is used for things such as
Scholarships for Annual Pastors Wives Retreats
across the U.S., Financial Aid towards Crisis
Counseling for the Pastors Family.
Make checks payable to Sarah's Tent and send
in care of LIVING STONES CHURCH / P.O. Box 964 /
Broomfield, CO 80038-0964 / USA ~ (Sarah's Tent
is a World Wide Internet Ministry hosted by
LIVING STONES CHURCH and as a co-operative effort
of churches and pastors throughout the United
States.)
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Joy In The Kitchen is an extension of Sarah's
Tent An online ministry devoted to gathering
together God's silent warriors, the wives of
pastors and ministers of all denominations and
cultural backgrounds, as well as their families,
for fellowship, support, laughter and prayer. Isa
51:1-2 / Isa 54:2-3 / Heb 10:24-25
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