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There's JOY in the Kitchen ~
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What we are looking for.
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A weekly newsletter from Sarah's Tent, an
online ministry tailored towards Pastor's Wives.
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Isa 51:1-2 / Isa 54:2-3 / Heb 10:24, 25
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WHAT YOU SEE DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU LOOK
FOR
by JoyfulArt
"What you see, depends on what you look
for", is the quote that greeted me on the
little black message board beside the
receptionists desk of my work as I came into the
office this morning. Since the company I work for
does motivational training, we see a new quote
everyday, geared to stir us, convict us, and give
us thoughts to ponder and grow on. What great
reinforcement of God's Word!
Faith depends solely on what we are looking at
- and at Whom. It never ceases to amaze me how
God can look at me (at us) and see His Son. He
sees us as perfect unblemished children, bursting
with potential when we are washed by the blood of
His Son. Oh to be so like-minded! To see our
children bursting with potential, learning daily,
oozing with love and trust.
What we see in our children depends on what we
are looking for. If we are looking for a typical
child of average behavior, we may be seeing
rebellion, defiance, laziness or anger. When we
look with the right eyes, and see beyond what we
THINK we are seeing, we just might be surprised
at what we find. Instead of rebellion, you might
discover a deep thinking child with creativity
and intelligence. Behind the defiance, you may
find that you are not dealing with defiance at
all, but miscommunication and a very tender heart
with great wisdom and a sense of fairness.
Perhaps you are screaming because your child
appears to be lazy. Could it be that you were
given the gift of a child that brings peace? Oh
sure, there will be rebellion, anger, control,
laziness, and ugly behavior that challenges your
patience. After all, your children ARE human
beings! Perhaps if you were to look beyond what
you THINK you are seeing and look deep into the
tender soul of your child, you might discover
what the Father already knows...that here lies a
precious, incredible, one of a kind work of art!
The finest the Master has given. What is it that
you are choosing to see? Where's YOUR faith?
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Beloved, now we are children of God; and
it has not yet been revealed what we shall be,
but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be
like Him, for we shall see Him as He is. 1John3:2
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Book Summary
Tcmah96
The book is called  Explosive Child. It talks about how
children generally want to please their parents
and they usually don't intentionally do things
they know are going to get them in trouble and
make everyone, including themselves miserable. If
a child has a pattern of misbehavior, there is
usually an underlying cause. Some block that is
causing them to stumble. The experts have come up
with labels for a lot of these children.
Hyperactive, ADHD...You've heard of them. This
book address another group of children. Some have
been labeled by these correctly, but have this
additional problem. Others are just labeled,
"difficult".
These children have not learned to handle
frustration. They are easily frustrated. They can
not shift gears quick enough relate well. They
get stuck and often end up throwing a tantrum and
loose all logical thinking. Punishment does not
work on these children because they cannot help
themselves. Many are very sweet, well behaved
children, until they hit a block and BOOM! It
sounded like he was talking about Michael.
If something doesn't go the way he expects, he
can dissolve into an uncontrollable tantrum
within seconds. If we don't give him enough time
to switch gears, the same thing happens. When he
feels overwhelmed by or doesn't understand our
demands, he can quickly meltdown. His brain shuts
off and he doesn't hear anything we say and
doesn't make sense himself.
From the book we learned about user friendly
environments. Creating a situation where we can
keep him thinking and help him learn to handle
frustration better. It consist of having three
"baskets." It is the "choose your
fights" idea in more detail. In Basket A you
put things that are nonnegotiable. Things that
are worth enduring a tantrum over. At first
safety is the only thing that goes in there. In
Basket B, you put things that a - you know the
child is capable of with some help; b - things
that you want to work with your child on; c
-things that are worth the risk of a tantrum.
Examples might be...Nutrition, use of bad
language, manners. In Basket C, you put those
things that for now you are going to completely
ignore and things your child in not capable of
right now. For Michael putting on his socks and
shoes by himself in now in Basket C. It just
causes him too much frustration.
The Baskets will be different for each family
and child. Things for us move back and forth
between basket B and C depending on Michael's
health, amount of sleep and the environment we
are in. For example: during the holiday rush of
company and excitement, almost everything went in
to basket C.
We no longer punish Michael when he starts to
have a tantrum. Punishing him during tantrums
just makes them worse. I try to divert his
attention, comfort him...whatever it takes to
calm him down and then we talk about it. I no
longer take his outburst as personal attacks. We
say things to him during vapor lock, pre-tantrum
state, like "hey, slow down. Turn your brain
back on. Lets see if we can figure this out
together. Lets find something that will make us
both happy, compromise."
The most important thing is to recognize those
situations that are likely to cause him
frustration and remove them or prepare him for
it.
Sometimes, from the outside, it may look like
we are letting him get away with too much. But
fussing at him all the time was making things
worse and so now we are tabling some issues.
We try to catch him during vapor lock and
change tactics to prevent a meltdown. Sometimes
that means giving in to buying a toy, eating
something not so healthy, or turning the car
around to see a Christmas decoration that we
missed the first time.
"But won't he learn to throw a tantrum
any time he wants something?" I don't think
that will happen. Michael is a good, tender
hearted, kid. I can tell that he wants to do
right. He knows what is right. And when he is at
his best, he is proud to do right. He just gets
frustrated so easily and looses control.
Since we started with the Baskets, we have had
almost no tantrums, and few vapor locks. It
works! We are all happier and Michael is learning
some new words...vapor lock, frustrated,
compromise.
My Mom got the book online, but I feel that
God sent it to us. It is by a secular physician,
but I have a feeling that prayer just increases
the effectiveness of his ideas. Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go And when
he is old he will not depart from it. NOTE: Click
Explosive Child to buy the book
online.
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WHERE ARE OUR PRIORITIES?
Funny how a $20 bill looks so big when we take
it to church and so small when we take it to the
store.
Funny how big an hour serving GOD looks and
how small 60 minutes are when spent playing golf,
fishing, etc.
Funny how laborious it is to read a chapter in
the Bible and how easy it is to read 3,000 pages
of a best selling novel.
Funny how we believe what newspapers say but
question what the Bible says.
Funny how we can't think of anything to say
when we pray and don't have any difficulty
thinking of things to talk to about to a friend.
Funny how we need 2 or 3 weeks to fit a church
event into our schedule, but can adjust it for a
social event at the last minute.
Funny how folks want to sit on the front row
at a ball game or concert, but scramble to get a
back seat at church services.
Funny how difficult to memorize scripture to
share the simple gospel message but how easy to
hear and repeat gossip.
Funny, isn't it? OR IS IT?
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The Anchor
staying put in rough seas
submitted by SharonB97
When I say . . . I am a Christian
I'm not shouting "I am saved."
I'm whispering "I get lost"
That is why I chose this way.
When I say . . . I am a Christian
I don't speak of this with pride.
I'm confessing that I stumble
and need someone to be my guide.
When I say . . . I am a Christian
I'm not trying to be strong.
I'm professing that I am weak
and pray for strength to carry on.
When I say . . . I am a Christian
I'm not bragging of success.
I'm admitting I have failed
and cannot ever pay the debt
When I say . . . I am a Christian
I'm not claiming to be perfect.
My flaws are too visible
but God believes I'm worth it.
When I say . . . I am a Christian
I still feel the sting of pain.
I have my share of heartaches
which is why I seek HIS name.
When I say . . . I am a Christian
I do not wish to judge.
I have no authority
I only know I'm loved.
- Author Unknown
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New Year Wish
From: MultiHatz
May God make your year a happy one -
Not by shielding you from all sorrow and pain,
but by strengthening you to bear it if it comes.
Not by making your path easy, but by making
you sturdy enough to tread any path.
Not by taking hardships from you, but by
taking all cowardice and fear from your heart as
you meet hardships.
Not by granting you unbroken sunshine, but by
keeping your face bright even in the shadows.
Not by making your life always pleasant, but
by showing you where man and his cause need you
most and by making you zealous to be there and to
help.
Not by keeping you from every battle, but by
bringing you off every field more than conqueror
through Christ "Who loves you."
- by Cleland B. Mcafee - SUNDAY SIDE-UP
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If I had it to do over again, I would be
more demonstrative of my love for them and not
take for granted that they knew I loved them.
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ENTREE: Rosemary Roasted Pork
Vegetable oil spray
3/4 pound pork tenderloin
2 tablespoons fresh rosemary or 2 teaspoons dried
rosemary
1 teaspoon olive oil
Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Line a baking
tray with foil, spray with vegetable oil spray
and place in oven. Remove fat from pork and
butterfly the meat: Cut it nearly in half
lengthwise. Open the pork and lay flat like a
book. Pound it flat with the palm of your hand or
with the bottom of a skillet. Chop rosemary if
using fresh. Rub pork with olive oil and sprinkle
rosemary on both sides. Remove baking tray from
oven and place pork on hot tray. Return to oven
and roast 15 minutes. Remove and let sit 5
minutes, then carve.
Nutritional information per serving: 186
calories; 28 grams protein; 1 grams carbohydrate;
7 grams fat; 36 percent of calories as fat; 0
fiber; 91 milligrams cholesterol; 66 milligrams
sodium.
Be sure to check out ministry tested recipes
at: Doffycook's
Nethome For even MORE recipes, click on
these!! More
Recipes and Once-a-Month
Cooking (OAMC)
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"When your children are small and
seem to create only more headaches and hard work,
just remember, 'Your eating your sweetbread.'
Those were some of the happiest years of my
life." Grandma Brownlow
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NEEDING PRAYER?
Contact Sarah's Tent at SarahsTent@aol.com
, and not only will we pray, but your request
will be sent to the proper prayer chains as well.
Just be sure to send your praise report when God
moves on your behalf!!
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Being A MOM ! ! ! ! !
From: SharonB97
One day a man comes home from work to find
total mayhem at home.
The kids were outside still in their pajamas
playing in the mud and muck. There were empty
food boxes and wrappers all around. As he
proceeded into the house, he found an even bigger
mess. Dishes on the counter, dog food spilled on
the floor, a broken glass under the table, and a
small pile of sand by the back door. The family
room was strewn with toys and various items of
clothing, and a lamp had been knocked over.
He headed up the stairs, stepping over toys,
to look for his wife. He was becoming worried
that she may be ill, or that something had
happened to her. He found her in the bedroom,
still in bed with her pajamas on, reading a book.
She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his
day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked
"what happened here today?"
She again smiled and answered, "You know
everyday when you come home from work and ask me
what I did today?" "Yes", was his
reply." She answered, "Well, today I
didn't do it!"
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Lambiee's Links
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Donna's
Day Home Page
Fun, engaging hands-on activities that kids and
their parents can do together - that's Donna's
Day, the hit family series on Public Television.
Here on the web site, you'll find ideas,
projects, and recipes presented on the show,
previews of upcoming programs, information on
ordering tapes and books, and much more. Donna
Erickson is the host and mom behind these quality
ideas for making time count with your family.
(review taken from the website)
http://www.selfhelptech.com/cgi-
bin/filter.cgi?file=../s20.html&code=12200
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weight! The registration fee is $20, and the cost
is $9 per month after that. (I know none of you
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If you have any web sites you would like to
recommend, please send them to Lambiee@aol.com
(Tina) We'll be happy to write reviews for the
newsletter!
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Joy In The Kitchen is an extension of Sarah's
Tent An online ministry devoted to gathering
together God's silent warriors, the wives of
pastors and ministers of all denominations and
cultural backgrounds, as well as their families,
for fellowship, support, laughter and prayer. Isa
51:1-2 / Isa 54:2-3 / Heb 10:24-25
Joy in The Kitchen Volume 2
Issue 46
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